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Do you ever feel like a fraud?
Or just plain not good enough to start a business?
We all do.
But it affects different people in different ways.
It depends on how much power you give to the thought of “not good enough.”
Do you let the thought blackmail you, or do you remain as the stillness behind it all?
Even famous speakers, authors and entrepreneurs don’t feel good enough from time to time. They feel like frauds, and everything in between.
The mind will always be afraid, but that’s okay. It doesn’t have to stop you.
So why do you feel like you aren’t good enough?
1. Expectations
Could you feel not good enough if you didn’t have expectations?
If I were writing this article without expectations, I couldn’t start wondering if you were going to like it, because that would be an expectation.
You expect something to happen, and it isn’t happening. And when it isn’t happening, you immediately go into not-good-enough mode.
To transcend your expectations, focus completely on what you’re doing now.
Let life take care of the fruits of your labor, because they are none of your business.
All you can do is what you can do in in this very moment.
Life unfolds the way it unfolds. If you resist, you suffer. Focus on the here and now.
2. Conditioning
We come into this world with no conditioning. We don’t even know how to think, because we have no concepts. Those are learned later.
As children, we explore and enjoy what is. We live completely in the present moment, which is why most people love babies (and children) so much.
They gaze back at you without judgment, without the cloud of thinking.
Most of us have grown up with conditioning that is no longer helpful, especially when it comes to building a lifestyle business and living a passionate life.
The more conditioning you have, and the more you believe it, the more you will suffer.
From an evolutionary standpoint, the suffering isn’t bad. It’s there for you to transcend. When you’ve had enough suffering, something inside you wakes up.
You wake up to the fact that you are not your conditioning.
I’ve gone through a lot of suffering. I’ve had times of heaven and times of hell. It hasn’t been fun, but it has all taken me to the place where I am now.
Your conditioning can help you wake up, or it can keep you in suffering. It can tell you that you aren’t good enough, but the thought of not being good enough is not good enough.
It’s not sufficient proof.
Just because a thought appears does not make it true.
Even if another thought appears and tries to back up the first thought, it does not matter. Let it go.
3. Thought
Last but not least, the third reason you feel not good enough is because of the thoughts you give power to.
You have to cut the power cord to your thoughts.
We’ve already covered this above, but this is so important that it needs more space. If a thought comes up and tells you that you’re not good enough, you can either believe it, or you can let it go.
This doesn’t mean you will instantly feel good enough. The thought and feeling may linger for a while, but you don’t get entangled in it. There’s space there.
Most people believe every thought they have. It’s a vicious cycle. Unfortunately, many live their whole lives as slaves to their mind.
But it’s time to unshackle yourself from your thoughts.
Just because a thought tells you that you’re not good enough does not make it so.
And right about now you may have a thought that goes, “yes, but…”
Notice that it’s just another thought trying to help the previous thought. Just let it all go.
It’s okay if fear comes up. We are human beings. We will experience everything on the spectrum of emotions.
What matters is that you stay as the awareness behind it all. That’s where you will find peace, joy and happiness.
When you stay as the awareness, you will allow your inner wisdom to come forth. It will guide you forward.
You are always where you need to be. You are fulfilling your purpose. The only thing standing in your way is thought.
Transcending Doubt
Whenever I feel doubt creeping up, I try not to feed it by thinking about it more.
When I’m particularly present, I notice it, and I go right back to the present moment. I breathe, I notice my body, and I anchor myself in the here and now.
When you don’t feed the thought of not being good enough, it goes away. If you’ve had it for a long time, it may be persistent, so just keep on breathing.
And perhaps the most important message I want to give you is that you don’t have to feel good enough to be good enough.
Deep down you are already good enough. Nothing can change that.
What you think and feel is not reality, so keep on moving forward, one step at a time. That’s what I do, and it seems to work.
The Simple Takeaway
The bottom line is that not feeling good enough is normal.
Everyone feels like a fraud or an impostor. Once you get started on building your lifestyle business, or whatever you want to do, it fades into the background, because it’s not real.
Not everyone is ready to realize that they are not their thoughts, but if you are, it will change your life. Your thoughts can be freaking out, but you can be still, because you are not the mind chatter.
You are the awareness behind it all.
You already have everything you need to be happy. You don’t have to go chasing after it.
When you tap into that inner peace, you can do your work from there, and the impact it will have on the world will be tremendous.
It’s almost as if life lives through you.
But first, you have to let go.